1, thanks for sharing your experience. Me and my wife discussed a lot and then we thought, let’s try our bit and see how it goes. I called my sister and Aster if she was available the following weekend. She said yes. We went to her place with our children. Her husband was super sweet with Kiki. My sister was upset with us that we introduced Kiki to my brother’s first instead of hers. She is so used to getting special treatment from all of us. My wife and I just smiled and said, we are limiting the interaction of new people to Kiki. We don’t want to overwhelm her. She rolled her eyes and said, why are you guys making such a big deal about her? I mean, she’s, you know, she stopped and hugged Kiki and told her that she was her aunt. It felt good, but somehow Kiki was uncomfortable. She was unusually quiet and insisted that we leave the place soon.
My son took her to my niece’s room to play, but Kiki was not keen to play with my niece. I don’t know what happened inside, but my son said that the two girls didn’t get along well. Quite the contrary. When she was at my brothers, she never asked us to take her home. She enjoyed playing with her cousins. We acknowledged her dilemma, and we pushed off from my sister’s place two months later, my sister organized a birthday party for her daughter. Her birthday has always been grand since she was the only girl in this generation until Kiki came into our lives. As usual, we bought her loads of gifts, as she has been our darling niece. We went to the party with our son and Kiki. I found my sister was not very cheerful around my daughter, like the way she is around my son. During the cake cutting, she called her nephews, including my son, to stand beside her daughter. But she didn’t call Kiki. I thought she missed it. So I dropped Kiki beside my niece. My sister swiftly came and picked up Kiki and handed her over to me, saying she looks stressed out in front of the crowd. She might be more comfortable with you at the corner. My wife and I exchanged looks and we thought she was being protective. After the cake cutting, I asked my daughter to go play with my niece, but my daughter resisted. I didn’t force her.
My niece is 5 years old. I called her and asked her to take Kiki with her to play and make her comfortable. My niece rolled her eyes and said, my mom has told me not to play with her. She’s not my cousin. She’s not your daughter. She’s adopted, right? Why did you bring her here? Mom is upset because of her. My Bill hurt her and he scolded her for being mean. My wife stopped him because it was her birthday and we shouldn’t ruin it. Bill apologized to both of us. I knew my sister was nosy in big mouth, but didn’t realize that she was so evil that she would ask her daughter not to play with mine.
I wanted to leave the place right away, but my Bill insisted. We had dinner. Before leaving, I told my brothers about this and they asked me to calm down and discuss this later because there were other guests present. My wife and I sucked it up and stood there. However, we lost our when my sister discriminated between my daughter and the other children of the house. She gave a big box of returned gifts to all the nephews, including my son, and gave a small box to my daughter. Initially, I thought it was a different gift for a girl, but then I saw that all the other children of the friends and neighbors also had that small box. As my daughter Kiki started sobbing that her brother and other cousins got big boxes and she got a small one, she was crying, that aunt doesn’t love me and she loves others. We try to pacify her, but she’s just 3. She was hurt to see the discrimination. My sister caught Kiki crying and saying this. She pulled my wife to the corner and asked her to control Kiki’s mouth because the guests were listening and they would think bad about her. My wife didn’t say anything because a few of my sister’s friends were looking at them and she didn’t want to create any scene.
My wife came to me and said we should leave. I questioned her no further because I know her very well. If she takes such a decision, it means it’s severe.
I called my son, who was playing with his cousins. I told him we were leaving. He wanted to stay longer. He started throwing tantrums. I picked him up and started walking outside. My brothers came to stop me and asked me to wait for the family picture. My wife said, we don’t want to stay where our daughter was not welcomed. My brother got the hint. He said sorry and backed off. My sister stopped us and said we were creating a scene there. I pitched in and said we were trying to keep calm until now. But you know what? Everyone deserves to know how evil you are. You’re mean to my 3 year old daughter. You even told your daughter not to play with mine. You discriminated between your nephews and niece. You gave special gifts to all the children of the family, but gave my daughter a regular gift, which you gave to other kids. She rolled her eyes and said, yeah, because special gifts were for the children of the family and your daughter is adopted and not family. Me and my wife were flabbergasted at her remark. How could she even say that? My wife started crying and everyone was looking at us. My sister got furious and yelled, why you guys are so adamant about ruining my reputation? You have already put the family on a spot by bringing this filth into our lives. Was it necessary to bring her here and show her to the world now that you are here, just stay. I don’t want the guest to see that there’s anything wrong between the siblings. I don’t wanna give any more gossip to them.
My daughter started crying amidst all the yelling. We were asked to keep her away from a chaotic situation because that would affect her mental health. I pulled my wife and said, let’s leave. We cannot let our children breathe in this toxic environment. Bill came running behind us to stop us and said sorry for everything. Meanwhile, my sister yelled that we would not leave the venue without apologizing to her. I frowned at her. I mean, she was the one who was evil to my daughter. And we apologize to her. No way. She said that we spoiled her daughter’s birthday and made her upset. We created a scene in front of everyone. So we owe her an apology in front of all.
Apology. My $1. I said I’m not apologizing. And you know what? If you’re already embarrassed by us, then let me make it straight for you. We’re cutting you off. This might save you the reputation. She did not calm down even after hearing this. She screamed, you’re cutting off your sister, your own sister. For this adopted girl, God knows whose blood runs into her. What wrong did I say that? She is not family. She’s not. We’re family. I wish I punched her in the face. My elder brother lost his and he yelled back at my sister.
If you’re so keen about family dynamics and blood relations, let me clarify one thing. If there’s any child here who does not belong to our family, it is your daughter. She belongs to your husband’s family and not ours. Yet we love her like our daughter because we don’t harbor hatred in our hearts like you do. Kiki, is our family more than you or your daughter. And if anyone here owes an apology, it’s you need to apologize to them. Us and this little girl, she looked at my younger brother for support, but he said, big bro, elder brother was right. And she had been mean to Kiki all this while. Feeling defeated, she started crying that we were ganging up against her and ruining her daughter’s special day. Gosh, why does it always have to be about hers? We just left after that incident. Has not gone down well with my daughter. She has lost her self esteem. She has gone back into her shell and doesn’t want to meet anyone.
Bill called us that very night and apologize to us. He said he should have intervened earlier, but since we all siblings are close to each other, he remained distant from our matters. I said, it’s fine. It’s not your fault. You did try to control this situation, but I guess we have gone too far pampering our sister that now she has turned narcissistic towards us. My younger brother and his wife visited us with their children, but my daughter remained inside her bed and didn’t come out to play. I told him how badly our sister has been behaving with my daughter. They were shocked to hear how mean our sister could be. They said we should have cut off our sister much earlier anyways, better late than never. We have decided to cut her off from our lives and safeguard our daughter’s well being.