I agree with you. I do not think that people should be obligated to be calm or kind or collected when they’re talking about their own trauma. But just because you have a right to have an emotional reaction about your trauma does not necessarily mean that that emotional reaction is going to be effective in educating people. Like, that’s just the truth. It’s not. I know that that’s not fair, but it’s just the truth. Like, sometimes you have to choose between your right to rage and your desire to teach and. And reach people. And I’m not saying that you have an obligation to educate people, but I’m. I am saying it’s unreasonable to think that you have the right to belittle and insult people for refusing to learn from you when you are admittedly not trying to educate them. And if you are trying to educate them, then we bear some responsibility for managing our emotional reactions so that we can communicate with people so that we can educate people. And it’s not about, like, hearing someone through the distress, because, like, they’re also distressed. Like, particularly when the person you’re trying to communicate and educate isn’t the one who abused you or traumatized you. When they’re also just a vulnerable person trying to navigate a bunch of systemic ableism. Watching a child that they love be in distress and not being able to get access to the. The right resources or find anybody that that can Explain to them what all these therapies mean. But you have a right to an emotional reaction to your trauma. Yes, but you don’t have the right to treat people any way you want just because you’re in pain. So the. The language that you use when you talk about your trauma is fair game? The language that you use when you insult someone and you belittle them and you say things like, well, I guess you like abusing your child, and call me in 20 years when they have PTSD, that’s. You don’t actually have a right to treat people that way. Like, particularly if all you’re offering them is, like, the same four phrases over and over and. And. And no real education.