Beware of ‘Kind Gestures’: The Importance of Setting Boundaries and Avoiding Unwanted Advances in Social Situations

Hi my ladies. I want you guys to be so extra careful when you go out to a bar or a restaurant and you meet a guy who offers to pay your Bill, buy your drinks and your food. He’s offering to pay us who? Honey? There’s no free gift. So last week I went out. I haven’t been out in a very long time as you know and this incident was a clear reminder as to why I stopped. Now this guy walks up to me and my friends and he’s telling me how he loves my content. He’s a huge fan of my work and I’m like, thank you. He’s like, can I buy you guys a drink? I’m like, no problem. Who am I to refuse a gift? Now I was drinking a bottle of wine. My friends were drinking beers. So when the drinks come, he comes to the table and says to me that can I get a kiss? I said, ah, as in he says either I I kiss you or you kiss me and for me I want to a kiss on the neck. I’m like, excuse me, I’m not this is someone I’ve just met that day. I’m like, I’m not going to kiss you. He’s like, but I bought you a bottle. I bought you a bottle. I’m like, no. Anyway, long story short, my friends had to intervene. The guy went crazy. We had to send back his drinks. Um And for the rest of the night, I had to get the manager of the, the establishment to just protect me because he kept coming, like trying to talk to me, telling me how I’ve even rejected his, his wine, his bottle of wine, and I’m being rude, yet he’s a fan. Guys, there’s no such thing as a free gift. When someone buys you something, they’re expecting something. And I think it’s a little naive of us to expect that this person is just so kind and generous.