Reflections on Love and Accountability: Learning and Growing From Relationships

Hi, Sam. Um, so I’m gonna say this in words that you’re gonna understand, so I’m gonna keep the main thing, the main thing here. And you know what? I wasn’t upset that you didn’t know how to describe love. Clearly, we’re on very different emotional, intellectual levels. That’s fine. What I was upset about, though, was the fact that I watched this back and saw how you interacted with all these men. Huffing and puffing your chest everywhere, the blatant disrespect to everybody. And then on top of that, our relationship, everything was about you the entire time. How you were feeling in the moment, what you wanted to do, everything resolved around you. And you watch that back, and instead of growing and learning from that, you decided to double down on that and have your friends and family go out online and defend your honor when you’re a grown man. And instead of taking accountability for your actions, you decided to blame it on the producers, the edit, the TV show, whatever it was. And at the end of the day, the man that I saw on TV was exactly the man that I sat across from the entire journey. The thing is, I want you to be better from this. But if you don’t take a step back and look at what you saw and take accountability for your actions and grow and learn, then I feel very, very sorry for whoever you end up with. Because this delusion of world that you’re living in right now, and this denial is not gonna work for anybody. Yeah, I think I came up here and took a lot of accountability. Uh, truthfully, I definitely lost myself in some of those moments right there, and I wish that I could go back and redo them. Truthfully, you saw walls that I built up around my heart, that you saw before me. And that’s something that I’m, like, forever grateful for. And that’s something that I will be able to take towards, you know, my next partner. And, you know, for that, I really just want to say thank you. I truly hope that you mean that and you’re not just saying that to say that, because I do. I do want the best for you. Okay. Thank you.