I’m an individual therapist working in private practice, and here’s my take on Colleen Hoover’s it ends with us. Before we jump into it, I just want to confirm I have read the book and seen the movie. I would argue that there were some parts of both the film and the book that showed accurate depictions of what a domestic violence relationship looks like. One of the things I did appreciate is that they showed the gradual progression of abuse. Um, sometimes there are underlying red flags that we can kind of see, but sometimes go unnoticed because those things can feel familiar. Um, sometimes we also identify with those things, and it feels safe to us, even when, ideally, it really isn’t safe in a. In a healthy situation. What I would say was the issue that I did have with it is that it is not an accurate depiction of someone leaving an abusive relationship. Lily seemingly makes it seem really easy for her to end and set boundaries with Ryle. That is not how it usually goes in real life. It is extremely hard to be able to come out of a cycle of abuse for various reasons. And I think one of the things that the film did not show or the book did not show was how an abuser might respond to someone trying to leave that controlled relationship. With that being said, those are just my thoughts, but I would love to hear Yours