we are getting married right and to be a part of our wedding you have to pay $450 for it. So when I first saw this my first instinct was this has got to be in the Torah this has got to be in the Torah this has got to be in the Torah there’s no way 5 000 years of Jewish history nobody ever tried this. So apparently this is a question that has come up many times the yeshiva.co answered this in 2017 the OU did in 2013 there’s a stack exchange that alludes to this basically it all boils down to this once you charge admission that changes the nature of the wedding that changes all the money given from gifts given out of the goodness of someone’s heart to people paying in a transaction that changes the wedding into a product that people have paid for and depending on the way that one collects the money for instance if one is collecting money at the door that means that that RSVP created a debt that I you owe me $450 once you said that you were coming to the wedding. So since it’s a product of trends of a transaction why would guests not be able to ask for refunds for example when I got the ticket to the wedding I thought it was going to be this beautiful celebration I hate the cake I hate the caterer I hate the food I really don’t like the bread I want my money back and since the now RSVP is it a ticket to get to an event why would that guest not be able to sell that to someone else if it’s not explicitly said non-transferable if one’s ops were willing to pay $700 for the ticket why would not why would one not be able to sell it to them one is far better off in Torah law anyway in Jewish law not doing something like this if people give $450 out of their own heart that’s charity that’s a gift to the groom to the groom and the bride but charging admission up front or at the door changes the wedding into a product and that admission into a transaction yeah just don’t do this don’t don’t do this