Shedding Light on Domestic Violence: A Critical Reflection on It Ends With Us

So here’s what I think about It Ends With Us. I am so disappointed. And this is coming from somebody that read the book. This is coming from somebody that was in a DV relationship. So I got recommended to read this book by somebody that also dated the person that I was with. And we just happened to share a lot of the same abusive patterns and behaviors from this particular person. So the story was extremely impactful for me because it made me feel seen. It made me feel hopeful. So when I seen that they were coming out with a movie, I was so happy. Because finally, we’re talking about this on a bigger platform. We’re shedding light like we should. And aside from the fact that they didn’t even put the DV line at the end of the movie, the promotion for this film is fucking ridiculous. My mother thought it was a great idea to promote this film. Like it was some kind of girly pop, grab your florals, grab your girls and head to the movies. And while you’re at it, buy some hair products. And although it’s as easy to say that DV does not define us, it impacts our lives tremendously. That’s not something that I think people should just gloss over like that. This is something that goes on every single day. A lot of the time people stay quiet. They don’t tell anybody. Like when I was going through it, I didn’t tell anybody. And nobody would have ever thought that that could have been me. But to promote the film on some, move the fuck on, get all cute, get all dressed up. It is extremely fucking insensitive because you could buy hair products. You can go out with your girls. But at the end of the day, you are still dealing with that internally. You are still learning how to heal from that. Like, let’s be honest. It’s not as simple as just get over it. It’s not as simple as just move the fuck on and grab your florals. And it is especially hard for people that have to co-parent with abusers like that. Not everybody has supportive family and friends. Not everybody has an abusive partner that is trying to change. A lot of the times they make it very, very hard to co-parent. And they make it very, very hard for you to move on. This film had a chance to start a really important conversation that needs to be had. Because it’s not a thing about, well, why does she stay so long? It’s really not that simple. Focus needs to be more on, well, why did he do it? Or why does she do it? Because girls can also be abusive as well. We need to start holding these abusers accountable. Not victim blame and just tell her to get over it and move the fuck on. Oh no, hopefully they get their shit together. Especially if they’re gonna come out with a second one. I’m team Justin. Shout out to you for actually shedding light on DV.